The Doing Your Work Program

I work with individuals, couples and families. I do sessions on Zoom now, and I have found that it is a surprisingly effective way to connect with my clients. I charge $120 an hour, and I send out email invoices for the sessions through Square Payment — however, I don't take insurance. Please call me at 530-550-0885 to set up an appointment or for more information.


The foundation of the Doing Your Work program is the idea that each of us has an Emotional Body that is as real as our physical body. The Emotional Body consists of our emotional heart, emotional mind, and autonomic nervous system, and lives woven within our physical bodies. The program's goal is to learn how to feel, listen to, and respond to the emotional experiences in our lives and relationships, especially where we get triggered and reactive in our Emotional Body.

Together we explore and identify the wounded emotional patterns that develop from the negative impact in our families and adult lives and work with the skills it takes to bring healing and resolution to those patterns. This means gradually becoming fully conscious of the emotional energy we hold in our Emotional Body, which is where we carry the history of that impact. Whether we have been wounded through acts of neglect, heartlessness, abuse, violence, or denial— or trapped in unconscious abandonment, betrayal, and deprivation in our families—the Emotional Body experiences the same kind of shock, impact, and trauma as the physical body.

The parallels are exact—just as our physical bodies can experience nutritional or nurturing deprivation, tissue damage, circulation damage, or structural damage, the Emotional Body carries its damage in the form of developmental and cognitive impairment. The only real difference is that the injury sustained by the Emotional Body—and the complex grief that forms as a result—can be partially or entirely frozen in sustained shock over time through denial, suppression, fragmentation, dissociation, and splitting.

There are four modalities in Doing Your Work that rebuild our emotional bodies and heal our nervous systems so that we have healthy choices again — 1) creating emotional literacy and sobriety, which means feeling, identifying, and articulating our emotions, while containing them in a grounded way and not acting them out with others — 2) breathwork and cognitive awareness practices to reawaken the emotional body and balance the nervous system into a healthy projection of our authentic self — 3) discovering and rebuilding our boundaries and resolving grief in our relationships through using our awakening emotional voice and building a healthy personal narrative — 4) Reparenting, which means bonding with and reuniting with the little kid and inner teenager inside of us, so we can build a strong, emotionally integrated  foundation of success for our young adult and mature adult selves

The ultimate goal of committing to doing healing work like this is to bring all of our emotional experiences into our hearts and minds for complete acceptance and self-nurturing through a balanced nervous system. As the heart and emotions unite, our minds can receive this new love as truth and shed the wounded thinking we acquire from dysfunctional relationships. From there, our authentic emotional voice can emerge in our lives and relationships.

And then, our lives can really start to work—and miracles of love become possible.